Therapy for Perfectionist

What is Perfectionism?

 Perfectionism is like a double-edged sword–it cuts both ways. Perfectionists often don’t realize that they are hurting themselves by their own actions. Perfectionism is a duel with oneself, the ultimate “no-win” situation.

Perfectionists tell themselves that they must be flawless but matter how hard you try or achieve, and you still hear the inner message of "not good enough."

Perfectionists tell themselves that their determination to be perfect will win success, acceptance, love, and fulfillment, yet the opposite more often occurs.  In their desire to be agreeable, they’ve overextended themselves, doing everything for everyone. They’re exhausted emotionally and physically.

All this keeps stress and anxiety, leaves perfectionists feeling worthless.

It’s so hard to understand. Their highly motivated, gifted even, and yet they feel so burdened, unhappy, and drained.

How Perfectionism Expresses Itself:

  • Excessive stress

  • Self/Other Criticism

  • Procrastination

  • Comparison

  • Indecisiveness

  • Poor work-life balance

  • Need for control

  • Self-sabotage

  • Disconnection

  • Low self-esteem

  • Shame

  • Missed Opportunities

  • People-pleasing

  • Self-doubt

  • Distrust

Healing Perfectionism

 In therapy, we create a compassionate space to understand your true values and desires so you can connect with others authentically without people-pleasing. At Therapy for Women Beverly Hills, we examine thoughts that create anxiety and fear and reframe them into more compassionate and realistic cognitions. In addition, you work to build a loving, kind, and compassionate relationship with yourself that is not based on rewards and achievements as proof of your worth.

You’ll discover your invaluable self-worth and reclaim your life!